What is the Inferiority Complex?
At some point in life, most of us feel inferior compared to others for many reasons. Psychologists define inferiority complex as a feeling of low esteem, insufficiency stemming from either real or imaginary sources. A person going through the complex constantly goes through doubting in himself comparing with others.
Even in the subconscious mind, the victim of inferiority disorder makes decisions that can either drive him to the pick of success or bottom of failure. Most of the cases the victims are ended up being antisocial. In the worst cases, the individuals may fluctuate between two extremes.
The concept of the subsidiarity complex was developed by an Austrian medical doctor, a psychotherapist named Alfred Adler. His emphasis on the importance of inferiority feelings, the concept of inferiority composite is recognized as an element that plays a key role in personality development.
However, many psychologists have described that inferiority sensation symptoms can affect whole cultural groups. This is defined as ‘cultural cringe’ and described as a society that feels threatened by others and acts out negatively to overcome that feeling.
The Australian entertainment industry is given as a prime example of cultural cringe. After World War II the public assumed that anything produced by local dramatists, actors, musicians, artists, and writers was necessarily deficient as compared to other European counterparts.
Signs of Inferiority Complex
A person having inferiority composite tends to avoid mixing with people. Whenever they meet new people, they get the feeling of low esteem. So, they end up being antisocial.
I’m not Enough
The feeling that you are not enough and lack of confidence while going for any task is one of the major signs of abasement. The person with this habit always compares himself in his disfavor.
In spite of being introvert a person with inferiority feeling always seeks others’ attention. They always want to be praised, nurtured, and guided by others in all possible situations. They love to listen to any compliments. Being flattered makes them puff up with joy and for a short while at least they feel better about themselves.
The problems start when they start to rely on flattery in order to get on with things, as sometimes they just have to carry on without getting heaps of praise for simply doing their personal job.
Highly Sensitive to Criticism
We all need to hear healthy criticism for us to be better in our lives, and to act better where we lack. But if the tiniest bit of critique leaves someone desperate and low for days, then this is definitely a sign of inferiority complex syndrome.
However, this is also a sign of another mental disorder called NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder). Narcissistic people are very sensitive to criticism and always want constant praise and admiration.
Judging Others Very Often
A person suffering from inferiority syndrome always compares himself with the people around him. So, s/he tries to judge others in a negative way to make them substandard and this makes him/her feel happy anyway. This type of person considers others as a threat.
Trying Desperately to Please Others and to Fit in
As the inferior persons worry much about what people think about them, they always try to be what people like in him rather than being themselves. They always want to hear good things from others about them. So, they fit themselves anyway to please others.
Passivity and Procrastination
An inferior person is generally inactive in his way of life. She/he stays depressed and lazy. She/he can’t start a task at a designated time. Always puts off his/her works for the next day and the next day continues but can’t motivate her/him to do it. She/He’s a constant procrastinator.
The Reasons behind Inferiority disorder
Parental Negative Attitude Towards the Childrenhe
The negative attitude of parents towards children is the largest contributor to the mentioned complex. When a child gets continuous negative remarks and an emphasis on mistakes and failings from his or her parents, the attitude and outlook to the rest of the world will be affected at the very early stage.
Bullying by Others
Many times, children are being bullied by the teachers, peers in the school. Again, in the playground, they consume bullying by their playmates. Everyone makes fun of the child who is weak in some areas. All these bullies give the child a permanent feeling of inferiority to others.
Physical Defects and Mental limitations
There are many people born with physical defects. It may be a deformed body part or speech limitations. Same way, some people born with mental limitations. They are not capable enough compared to other guys around. These limitations and defects provide continuous signals that they’re inferior to others.
In many societies, women are considered inferior to men for no reason. This is going on for thousands of years. Women can’t take education, even better food in their own houses! They are raised as a burden of the family. Thus, their inferiority to men develops.
Social disadvantages such as being born into an impoverished family or experiencing discrimination against his/her particular race can also cause to develop an inferiority feeling.
How to Overcome the Inferiority Complex?
Although winning a mental disorder is rarely a black and white situation, there are definitely resources available for those who experience an inferiority syndrome in their life. By adopting some measures, this disorder will be healed for a lifetime. Here’re some tips to fight the subsidiarity feelings and be a person full of confidence:
There are many benefits of meditation, one of which is the effortless abandoning of negative emotions like lowliness. Meditation helps to concentrate on good things and avoid anything disturbing to any individual. Meditation lets the body support a calm mind and cultivate the natural ability to rest the mind in the object.
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Dealing with Past Experience and Tackling Horrible Memories
The feeling of being inferior started from past experiences. The person needs to think about it deeply. Why does he feel inferior to others?
Understanding this can help him to find the root of all problems. Once understand, he may take the necessary steps to overcome this. If required, one should move out of toxic people or a place where he has been staying for long. He may shift to a new town and start living there. This may help him out from his inferior feelings.
People with subsidiarity complex tend to focus on the things they’re not good at which leads them to feel inferior. But they should focus on the things they’re capable of. Everybody is blessed with some special abilities in specific areas. The person should sit quietly and think about the things he or she is good at. It may be writing, singing, art, cooking or anything else. When he starts doing those things, s/he will feel good automatically and starts feeling confident.
Forming Positive Relationships
While living a toxic relationship, one should start building positive relationships. The people who really admire him, give true feedback and encourage him in his works. Staying with such kind of people will make him a confident and focused one.
Discovering New Skills
Finding out new hobbies, skills will move one’s focus from the things for those he feels inferior. It’s always fun to build new hobbies which really attract the person. By practicing new skills, he will be able to concentrate on something he’s good at which eventually give him confidence.
Learning to Say ‘NO’
People with inferiority composite tend not to reject any offer even if they’re not interested at. They fall into the trap of agreeing on everyone’s demand. They fear to lose their friends by rejecting them. ‘NO’ is a character-building, beautiful, scary word. Use it with full liberty. Learning to say ‘NO’ is a great way to be more assertive and be clear to others about his opinion.
Therapist & Medication
However, learning to overcome the inferiority complex comes after a lot of hard work and under the observation of a therapist. Because there may be lots of ways to overcome inferiority feeling but everyone has a different story for their complexity.
So, the way of healing will vary from person to person. A psychologist can help a person to bring out the best and unique qualities from him. Then the psychologist can encourage him/her to focus on this skill set when feelings of inferiority and discouragement begin to surface. In some other cases, psychotropic medications can help to deal with the inferiority issues.
Finally, constant and consistent friendships can help to heal such a condition like an inferiority complex. In many instances, a person dealing with inferiority has never received positive inspiration in their life, which has made the development of self-esteem. Spending time with a positive individual who always reminds him/her of their positive qualities can make a big difference in the world of the inferior.